Feeling depressed is a different feeling from being unhappy or ‘down’. Depression is a serious mental health issue where the sufferer feels constantly miserable and hopeless, and even the activities that they used to enjoy mean little to them. It can feel like a big black hole has opened up and it is very hard for the sufferer to find a way out.
Depression can severely affect your sex life. It has the effect of mentally exhausting the sufferer, and its physical effects include feeling tired all the time, feelings of inadequacy, and a lowering or a loss of libido.
If you have suffered a loss of libido and you think that you may be depressed, do speak to your doctor. You might feel that no one else will understand how you’re feeling, or you might be embarrassed about talking about your sex life. Don’t worry - your doctor is there to listen and to help you and will be sympathetic to your worries. They might suggest medication in the form of antidepressants or counselling to help you to overcome your depression.
If you’re already taking anti-depressants and your sex drive has lowered, talk to your doctor. A loss of interest in sex can be a side effect of some antidepressant medications.
Once your depression begins to lift, you may find that your sex drive returns.