How can you get over performance anxiety?
Like other forms of anxiety, you can get counselling or therapy to help manage it. You can get cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), or other types of therapy on the NHS.
As well as counselling or therapy, there are some other lifestyle changes or techniques you could try to improve your performance anxiety, including:
- Use meditation and mindfulness exercises
- Get rid of stress factors in your work and life
- Change your negative thought patterns with cognitive behavioural therapy
- Avoid rushing sex
- Discuss your worries and anxiety concerns with your partner
- Try sex therapy to work through performance and intimacy issues
- Learn more about sex and sexual behaviours
- Go to couples counselling to help with relationship problems
- Try talking therapy to manage stress and other life challenges
If you need help or someone to talk to, Relate are an organisation the NHS recommend to help you handle sex and relationship issues.
How to get and keep erections with performance anxiety:
You can treat erectile dysfunction caused by performance anxiety the same way as other types of erectile dysfunction. Counselling and lifestyle changes can help, but you also get medications to help you get and keep erections, even with sexual performance anxiety, including:
Other medications for performance anxiety:
As well as helping you get and keep erections, there are other medications that can help you manage sexual performance anxiety, including:
- SSRIs – these are antidepressants that can help you manage your anxiety, but side effects can include no being able to get or keep erections, and not being able to orgasm
- Beta blockers, like propranolol – in some cases, doctors can prescribe propranolol for performance anxiety to help keep your heart rate steady before a performance
- Priligy or EMLA – if your anxiety is making you orgasm too quickly, these medications could help you last longer in bed